I’ve long heard of men cheating on their wives in Africa with no consequence and as a result increasing the spread of AIDS, but I also recall it’s almost taboo for the wife to do anything other than stand by. As you may or may not know, rapper Akon is from Senegal, Africa and supposedly practices polygamy with his three wives although this may just be a rumor to increase buzz. Buzz or not, he has gone on record stating that all Africans believe in polygamy.

Well, AllAfrica.com is reporting that women are starting to get revenge on their husbands by having their own extra-marital affairs.

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Ugg,

Why do women like to be treated like crap? Why do women always love the assholes and never the nice guys?

Simple, to the point, but a question with more depth than most. Women enjoy sex as much as men do, just not necessarily as often as men do. Not really by design, it’s just that men are easier to stimulate than women and as a result, men are ready to go much more often.

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The reason women go for men like The Jerk is because they get attention almost all day. Men don’t truly get this because most men don’t get ogled all day long as women do. Even the most unattractive women can still be lusted after if she’s got a decent body. Moreover, with the help of a slightly aggressive wardrobe, women can go from fugly to decent in no time.

As a result, women are put on a pedastool because the supply of what they offer (sex) is lower than the demand for what they offer. Guys end up worshiping women and as a result lower their own social value to the women they’re fawning over.

Women enjoy the power of their sex. However, they all want a strong man who’s frame supports being lusted after as well. Women want the attention and in fact often even NEED it, but when it comes to who they choose, they don’t want a slave, they want an equal. Someone who can look them on equal terms and say “No” from time to time. Not even wanting her adds more points to his hotness factor.

There’s a lot more to this, but the key is that women don’t necessarily love being treated like dirt. They just love the type of guy that tends to treat women like crap. You can stay a nice guy, but watch the man the woman is falling for if you truly want some insight. The little things he does or doesn’t do can be added to your arsenal for later.

Remember, when watching TV you don’t remember the boring commercials you saw. You’ve become desensitized to them as women have become desensitized to men who do nice things for them. Instead, you remember that HEAD ON commercial or some other super annoying commercial.

You see, what you need to do is break apart from the pack to gain recognition. Buying a girl a drink, saying she looks nice, telling her how pretty or cool she is… guys do that all day long trying to earn her favor. It’s when you can SAFELY (go overboard and you’re in creep territory) break that complacency she has with men that you make yourself memorable. Don’t call her cool, call her a brat. Don’t tell her she’s pretty, tell her that when she smiles her chin wrinkles and that you think it’s cute.

The key is to realize what a woman hears all day long… And then to NOT do that.

Ever find yourself in a conversation that you wish could last longer, but instead slowly dies out into nothingness? Eventually everything interesting has been said and you’re back to the standard “So what are you in school for” and the “What do you do for work?” lines. You don’t particularly care about the response and they’re likely just answering out of politeness.

The number one way to avoid getting caught up in a dying conversation is to constantly change the venue. When going out, make sure that there are other places in very close proximity that you can ‘bounce’ to after you meet someone interesting. Know a little bit about them (do they charge a cover? is there a redeeming quality about that place?) so that you can recommend them with ease.

This has the additional benefit of making you look like the savant of the night. Like a well-learned traveler, you’ll find women will flock to your side because you’re exciting. You’re not the guy that stands with a drink raised at hip level looking around the bar all night like a hungry jackal. No, you’re too busy for that! This is a highly desirable trait to women who are out looking for fun.

How Does This Help You Get Laid?

• You’re the Alpha Male of the group – Being the alpha male of the group is important. By acting as the leader and recommending a place more exciting than the one you’re at, you appear in charge and also knowledgeable of places of interest.
• A change in location reduces tension and stress – Subconsciously, when you move to a new location, you are no longer the guy they met at the bar. Instead, you’re an exciting man they had the pleasure of running into, who is out to show them some fun, and knows where and how to have it. At a new location, the scenery is different, their defenses are down, and you have a good slate to work with. Most guys at bars are full of crappy pickup lines – you are just a fun guy.
• It allows women to get comfortable with you – Bouncing around is great because it allows the physical interaction of being led. Extend your arm for them to wrap theirs around, extend your hand for them to grab on to, get their hearts beating harder with a little physical exercise. As all this happens, comfort builds and the woman can see you in a more relaxed light. Suddenly it’s almost as if you’re on a second date, only minutes into the interaction

Good bounce spots are typically quieter. If you’re at a club, talking will be hard, so leading to a quieter spot will allow you to chat a bit easier. Remain consistent. If you met at a venue serving alcohol, make sure the next one does too. Remember on a drinking night, most folks are there until closing time so they don’t want to waste time talking when they could be working on their social lubrication.

Avoid The ‘Do You Want To’ Question

If there’s one rule to this, remember that it’s never asking “Do you want to”… Of course they want to, you’re an exciting guy! Additionally, this makes you look weak, as if you need permission to be cool. It’s best to lead with a strong frame and allow the woman to feel comfortable trusting your judgment. After all, even if they say no, there’s no reason you still can’t bounce, meet someone there, and then bring them BACK to the bar you just left.

Bouncing works both ways and is a GREAT way to get the night started in a fun way.

Got these in an email this weekend and wanted to share. When you’re out at the bar, in a library or bookstore, or somewhere else.. Remind yourself that if one of the below lines crosses your mind, it’s best to in fact shut up and walk away!

When it comes to the opposite sex, it may very well truly be better to be a member of NOT Mensa than the organization of big brains itself

• “This is your brain. This is your brain on my naked thigh. Any questions?”
• “Could you help me get this tie tack out of my hand?”
• “Towards what end does a substantially empathetic demoiselle such as yourself inhabit a locus such as this?”
• “What say we skip this nerd-fest and hit an all-night symposium on Euclidean Geometry?”
• “Perchance, would you be inclined to participate, at my domicile, sans apparel, in a modicum of copulation?”
• “It doesn’t take a genius to see how gorgeous you are, but if it did, I’d be overqualified.”
• “You’ll have to excuse me — Your presence excites me beyond all capacity for cognitive discourse.”
• “Vini, Vici, Va-va-va-voom!”
• “You must be tired, because you’ve been running quadratic equations through my mind all night.”
• “That tape on your glasses really sets off your eyes.”
• “According to Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle of Quantum Mechanics, we may already be making love right now.”
• “If I were to mention to you that you have a bellus corpus, would you hold it against me?”
• “I bet your brain stem reaches almost down to your gluteus maximus.”
• “Ooohh, your IQ is 145? I like ‘em dumb and strong!”
• “By visually measuring the wrinkles in the front of your pants, calculating your body mass based on your height and weight, and dividing that number by your waist size — I conclude that you have absolutely nothing in your pocket and are, in fact, glad to see me.”
• “Baby, I’ll have you barking like a *canis familiaris*.”

I’m going to touch a little more on this when I discuss your “frame”, but this was too good a question not to get back to.

Ugg,

I think things are going great, but I have this nagging feeling that even though my girlfriend calls me her boyfriend, that I’m still in a “friend zone“. Things are going way too fast.

We have only been together a week, but after we met, we found we had a lot in common, exchanged phone numbers, etc. What followed were several late nights of phone calls about nothing, getting to know favorite colors, and everything else. We’ve been physical, but haven’t yet been able to pass that barrier. I enjoy sex and from what we’ve talked about I think she does too, but it seems something’s preventing her from feeling comfortable with me.

Any idea what could be going on?

Men Want A Whore In The Bedroom And A Saint On The Streets

Men have always had that saying, “She’s not the type of girl I’d bring home to mom“. That’s because men, being sexual creatures stimulated by physical attractions, often pursue women based on looks or the perceived ease of which they can get that woman into bed eventually. Emotional stimulation for men isn’t of critical importance. Males in almost all species are born to spread their seed, grow new life, and die. We’re still fighting the fight to get away from that instinct.

That is why men tend to not necessarily be put off by slutty behavior. It’s the same reason men buy women drinks – to get them drunk enough to be less careful. Most of the time, these women are NOT marriage material. In other words, not the type of woman they’d bring home to Mom.

Women Want Their Dream Guy For Their Friends To Meet, And A Beast In The Sheets

Don’t let the above block get you thinking women don’t enjoy sex too – they do. However, women battle with the stereotype that giving it up too early, will scar them with the scarlet letter (S for Slut) of whoredom.

Women want the guy that buys things, remembers birthdays, is smart and well-spoken, and all the things they dreamed of as little girls. Because women base their own value off of their relationships and perceived social status, these relationships are important because they display the fact that this girl is “worth it” to those around her.

Because women are typically stimulated by emotional bonds, long conversations about nothing, and other romantic gestures of importance prime the body for lovemaking. They make her feel safe. Also, because women are typically the prey and not the predator, they are used to keeping their guard up to prevent getting picked off (or up) easily.

The Real Reason Your Girlfriend Won’t Have Sex With You

Add these two together and you begin to see the alternate shapes. A Yin and Yang of relationship psychology. Men can’t hide the fact that they want sex. After all, you can place almost any man into the Three Types of Men – and women can sense it.

Women don’t fall in love with rockstars, they have crazy passionate sex with them and keep those wild nights tucked away for the occasional fantasy about how she’s a bad girl living a good girl life. Instead, women fall in love and marry accountants and businessmen, in other words – normal everyday men.

Often, when a woman finds a guy that has potential, she saves him for herself. If she treats you like a rockstar, or if you position or “frame” yourself as one, she will lose you after the sweat dries. Additionally, she doesn’t want you to think she’s a slut. Even worse, because all you do is think about sex, and she knows this, even your own word isn’t good enough. It’s about selective reproduction. Because she’s in her logical state of thinking, you have to prove you want more than her body.

And this is why you’re waiting.

Those long conversations, the nice words or poetry, that perfect date.. it accidentally tripped her “this could be the guy” alarm. She’ll do whatever it takes not to seem like a slut to you because she knows that would put her in the “not the girl I’d bring home to mom” category and she does not want to be there.

The frustrating thing is that if you were The Jerk she probably would have given you a wild night of sex. After all, it is what it is, and she’s not going to keep him around. You however, have the potential she’s been looking for.

So How Do You Get Laid From This?

Well, you could be The Moron, tell her you love her, and start your way into a relationship that would only hold you back.. Or, you could have a sit down with yourself and think about what you really want to happen. We know you want to have sex with her. Would you be willing to risk losing a long relationship for the prospect of having her as a sexual friend (aka f*ckbuddy)?

When the time’s right she’ll give it up, if you continue to sell yourself as you have. However, if you’re not looking to settle down, marry, give up your dreams, etc. It’s probably time to split and make sure you change the way you approach getting laid.

Setting Your “Frame”

This is where setting your frame comes in. When meeting a woman, you don’t want her to know how much you make, what you do, what your favorite day of the week is, how great a boyfriend you make, etc. You want her to know that you’re fun, exciting, and that physical contact with you, on YOUR terms, is rewarding and something she can enjoy. This can be a bit more complicated than I have room left to type, but the essential thing is confidence.

You’re an ambitious guy, making your way in the world, and while you enjoy physical contact and having fun with women, you’re not in the position to settle down yet – even if it’s only boyfriend/girlfriend stuff.

Most people don’t know what they want in life or in relationships. Instead they bluntly force their way from one to another until they find a decent fit. Knowing how to set your “frame” and watching out for deviations from that frame will put you heads and shoulders above most others.

If your frame is one of a man after some fun times but not serious commitment, set a deadline. Change your behaviors slightly and start framing the relationship the way you want it. If you want it at all. You’d be surprised. No woman wants to end a good thing, but may already know that you’re not getting anywhere with her, even if you don’t. Sometimes women enjoy meeting a guy who tells her what he wants and what he’s looking for – even if it’s not what she thought she wanted to hear.