Wow, just wow. For every good woman out there, there seems to be a Sarah. Ever wonder why men are scared of marriage? A UK publication, The Daily Mail, covered a story of a cheating wife that goes above and beyond even the worst most of us have heard. We’ve all heard tales of cheating wives and stories about wives cheating on their husbands, but a case this severe is highly unusual to say the least.

The Story Of This Cheating Affair

Charles was happy to be a father to two children by his wife. Then she presented him with a third…and a fourth…a fifth and sixth. But when she fell pregnant a seventh time he KNEW the baby couldn’t be his. So how many were?

The couple already had two children together and went on to have four more, sharing what seemed a blessed life on a rambling property in the West Country. He had always, he says, taken immense pride in his role as a loving father.

But when Sarah fell pregnant for the seventh time five years ago, his life imploded.

Charles knew with devastating certainty that he could not be the father – for by then the couple had not had a sexual relationship for some months.

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After the excitement of the wedding and the planning wind down and the dust settles, this is a question many married men begin to ask. The first major expense of a marriage is the woman’s ring. Men typically end up with a gold band or something else as generic. As for the wedding, most would agree that the celebration focuses on the union of the couple, but that 90% of the excitement and emotion is for the woman to finally get hitched.

Also realize that the tradition of the bride’s father paying for the wedding is not always the case. As is the case in this example, often the wedding is paid for by the couple themselves, entering them into a marriage saddled with a pretty hefty financial debt to begin with.

Of course, on the honeymoon, it is expected that the couple will have amazing and passionate sex – but statistics show that after the honeymoon, men typically end up receiving less and less sex as the marriage progresses. So aside from less sex and a potentially gigantic financial liability if a divorce were to occur – what do men get?

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In an article that also asks why women love assholes, there were some fantastic comments from men and women on the subject.

Ugg’s View On ‘Why Girls Love Jerks’

The initial attraction is due to a byproduct of being an arrogant prick. That byproduct is massive amounts of confidence. Women are bred by popular culture to be ‘swept away’ to be ‘taken’ and to be ‘had’.

Romance novels show a strong featured man taking the woman in his arms. This fantasy is perpetuated in fairy tales as a kid to romance novels as an adult. So in the real world, when a woman sees a man in control of his life (he’s rich – in control of his financial world / he’s a cocky jerk – he’s in control of his social world), they identify him as a man that is strong enough to sweep them away.

Women also tend to “hate the action, but love the man“. He’ll change. He just gets upset. I must make him angry. As mentioned in the original article, maybe it is being daddied by an authoritative figure…

Why Do Women Think Women Love Jerks?

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Ugg,

I find myself in a situation where I have feelings for a woman that I know is not being honest with me. Now when I say not being honest, I mean seriously, she is just plain not telling the truth about things. Now she claims that what she tells me is the truth when it pertains to her feelings for me but I have to say that even then I am starting to question her honesty.

Not that she ever really had any. If I could go into some details about how I know she is being dishonest it would amaze you. And I know the truth and yet and still she continues to lie to me. I tell her I know the truth but still she lies. What do I do… It’s not like a light switch and I can’t just turn these feelings off. I wish I could, but I can’t.

Well it seems that if we were to apply the Five Stages of Grief, you’d be in Denial.

While most of the submissions that come my way are questions in nature, your issue seems to almost be a “getting a load off of my chest” confession. If it helps, you’re not alone – this is actually a very common issue as you come to the realization that a relationship you are in or desire to be in, is not to be.

Let’s go over a few key points and hopefully you’ll know what I mean.

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I’m a big ole granola liberal and I wanted to tweak the tradition while showing my wife I love her.

USA Today ran an interesting article about a man who took his wife’s last name. According to a few other stories in the article it’s been happening somewhat commonly lately.

The newlyweds knew it would be surprising, but they never expected it to go quite so badly.
As Donna and Mike entered their wedding reception, an unwitting announcer told the expectant crowd, “Ladies and gentleman, put your hands together for the new Mr. and Mrs. Salinger!”

Some guests clapped, some chuckled at what they presumed was a joke and most looked at one another in confusion. The couple spent the entire reception and some of their honeymoon explaining to people what they had done.

The groom, you see, had started his day as Mike Davis and ended it by doing something precious few of his brothers-in-arms do: He took his wife’s last name instead of her taking his.

“Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought it would have caused as much of a stir as it did,” says Mike Salinger, 27, of Seattle, who was married in November. “We knew people might be surprised, but we figured they’d say ‘Huh’ and get on with it.

“Three months later, I’m still taking (flak) from one of my college roommates.”

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