I am currently deployed in Iraq and I busted my wife having very wrongful conversations with 2 other guys who live in a different state. She knew them both from High school and even dated one of them 10 years ago. She has admitted to sharing dirty pictures and having dirty conversations on the phone and internet, but is hell bent on telling me it was not a physical thing with either of them. Our bank records and cell phone statements point to somthing much more. Can you please help me find out if she has cheated if I give you sites and information to go on? I dont think I can rest until I know for certain one way or another. This is so hard on me. We have 2 young boys together. I need closer! Please help! I suck at computers, but I am learning quick!

Thanks!

girls have the capability to cheat, too. But never accuse her until you have enough, and accepteble evidence. If you are in a long distance relationship, then the best way to know if she’s cheating on you is to get a private investigator. Just search it on google.

hey, goodluck.

recently have become a nymphomanic i want sex, almost all the time. im a girl is that normal? ill be laying in bed and then just get the sudden urge to have my boyfriend thrust himself in me. im religous, sex is wrong unless your married its freaks me out after i have sex. also i always have the fear of pregancy in the back of my mind. with all the reasons i have to not have sex i shouldnt right? but if my body needs sex what do i do?

I’m currently in a five-month relationship with my girlfriend. I love her very much. But my problem is that she had a VERY promiscious past. I recently turned 27 and she is 21. She is the 3rd girl I’ve ever had sex with. When we first started dating she told me she had only been with 4 guys before me. However as we started dating, I started to hear rumors around town about her and some particular people that I happen to know. I confronted her about it and she lied to me on many different occassions. The truth is finally coming out and it seems like she has had closer to 40 different sexual partners!! I love her and I’m trying to get through this. But it is so HARD for me. Images and visions torture me every day of her and other guys having sex I’m so hurt by this because I really feel she could be the one. She swears that she has changed and she regrets it…but how do I get over this? Some of her past partners are guys that I know and see on a somewhat regular basis…as a man, its eating me alive…I just feel sick about the whole situation…what do I do? Most of my friends say break up with her..but its not that easy for me..I love her

My boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost a year now. We ended on a very bad note. Recently I have been thinking about him a lot, I think I miss him. What should I do?

Dear Ugg,

Call me guy #2 – the ambitious man. I’m facing a sort of dilemma. I’ve met a girl who is, in all honesty, probably the best girl I’m ever going to have a chance with in my entire life. She’s head over heels in love with me. So far, so good. Not so good is the inevitable two years or more of long distance relationship facing us. Maybe I’ll get to see here 2,3 times a year. Finances, and they suck.

The mere hint of an open relationship is cause for, “that’s silly, how could I love anyone else but you” (and the implied, ‘how could you love anyone else but me). She’s blind to anyone but me, and slightly jealous and protective. I know I would love to get laid, but I don’t think I would/could see myself with anyone but her in the long run. I’ve never been savvy/confident enough to play around before. Now I am able to…but should I?

Should I break her heart, and ask for an open relationship? Or stick with it, because in the long run I cannot imagine anyone better….?

-Dimmesdale

My partner and i (both late 20′s)have been together over a year now. I have never met anyone like him. He is the first person that I have told my raunchy fantasies to (considering i was in a 9 year relationship and engaged and that guy knows nothing – just show my new man is really something). I am the first he has ever told his extremely sexual past too. I ask the questions cause I am curious. I have many insecurities (which stem from my ex) and feel very inexperienced. He has had threesomes, couples and group/swingers sex. These are my fantacies that he only knows and I want to start living them. He is very mature and has experienced all of this is a relationship before. He said that I should experience all that sex has too offer especially my fantancies and he said that he is happy to do it with me however only if I’m comfortable. I want this bad we talk heaps about it and the more talk the more my creativity and imagination gets carried away. I am worried about my looks, what he/she/they look like am I good enough, how to find someone, best way that I can prepare mentally, what happens after (he or me awarkward).

Thanks
True first timer

Dear Ugg,

I am a married women with 2 sons. My husband works abroad. Recently, I started having an affair with another man. My husband doesn’t know about this. Recently my man came home and went while my husband is working overseas. Now, my domestic is threatening to tell my husband. What do I do?

Hi
I’ve been married for a number of years and would describe our relationship as very strong. Recently my wife has started going to the gym often and doing lots of physical work which I’m more than happy about.
When I logged onto my googlemail account on my laptop it logged into my wife’s as she was the last to use it. I noticed an email from a fitness dating site which welcomed her for registering and informing her that she needed to fill out some more details (there was also a registration email a day before). The email had her username and password (a password she certainly uses a fair bit). Now I don’t know if this is a marketing ploy or if she really did sign up. Would that site know the passwords she uses on other sites?

I hope it’s a particularly clever marketing ploy as I’m not sure what the next step would be.

Many thanks

I have been with my boyfriend fo almost 9 years and we have two beautiful girls. A couple weeks ago he left on the computer a sex dating site. Now theres two of them he only know i know about one. I have been watching him and everyday on his lunch break he checks out sends a wink and continues about his day. He is not fully subscribed and when i asked him about it he said he was just looking. My only concern is really a dating site theres thousands of porn sites out there. Thats when the comment came about well if you looked hard enough you would have seen you need to pay money. is this just a thing guys do because he can actually get a wink from a girl and porn cant do that it subconsciously helps him feel better. Our sex life is great every night sometimes more. He says he still attractive to me, tells me he loves me every night and when he gets off the phone, and still talks about our future. I just dont want him to cheat and trying to be more self confident about myself for him. Which was one thing in the conversation he said he just wants me naked and stop downing myself/ please i hope you can get back to me. He alwasy said he never liked cheaters and to please never cheat on him which im not going to lie in the first year i went through a mood change and was with a girl but never had any feelings, and he re payed me and since then we have been faithful and love each other dearly and really doesnt believe in cheating but you just never know. I dont think he will but my mind thinks so many crazy thoughts. thank you and hope to hear from you!

Close your legs You are married with children My God!

I been with my boyfriend 5 years now , dismorning I had a moment of doubt so when he left the room I checked his history on his iPhone when he went for a shower. I always knew he had been looking up porn , which I don’t mind because I understand a mans a man and wether their happy in their relationship or not their going to watch it that’s just how men are, but when I was looking through his history I notice sites like adult dating sites, IM live and sites like Ashley Madison which really freaked me out because the caption on the site goes ‘ life’s to short, have an affair ‘. I no I shouldn’t of gone snooping in the first place but I couldn’t help myself i like to think i trust him but he has cheated on me 3 times in the past so I always have that slight doubt in the back on my mind and when I saw this dismorning my heart sunk I just wanted to die. I confronted him about it and he said things like do u really think Im on them sites and if I was do u think id actually meet up with someone and do that do you and then turned it around saying I’m a nosey bitch which is fair enough I suppose. :-/ I let it go and carried on as normal, but now I can’t stop thinking about it I’m really worried I love this man to bits and the thought of him on dating sites and all breaks my heart , he’s obviously not happy & is playing with the thought of doing something.. Why else would anyone go on dating sites if their not interested. I Really don’t no what to do, my dad cheated on my mum alot growing up so i dont no don’t no wether I’m over reacting and that playing in the back of my mind has something to do with it or im just being stupid or wether I should take this seriously and be concerned. :-/