What to do about that girl who always gets a little too friendly?

Ugg,

My girlfriend, her best friend and I went out to a club last night. Everything was OK until, for the one minute we separated and they both started dancing together, and I was just standing against the wall and watching. Her friend comes up to me and starts dancing (a little freak dancing) with me.

So long story short, we ended up getting into a huge fight about how she can’t believe I did that etc… But the thing is that this is her best friend and we have gone out before and she has sometimes asked me to dance with her so she won’t feel lonely etc.. My girlfriend got a little too drunk and we got into a huge fight.

Did I mess up? Or is she just looking for drama? How should I react?

Threesomes - One Too Many

Often the problem with threesomes in other contexts, this is pretty common in a club environment. Girls love dancing with girls because they’re good company, there’s always room for innocent flirtation, and it also keeps other men at bay. However, often a girlfriend will be attracted to her friend’s man because he’s forbidden fruit or because she’s jealous of what you two have. Or of course, she could just be a bit slutty and considers you as having been screened well enough for her to safely get her tramp on.

Without knowing more, it’s hard to say who’s in the wrong. However, if you two are serious, it’s probably worth talking about it and discovering what she considers as boundaries. Some women don’t mind sharing their man for a little flirtation as long as they don’t feel like it’s being done behind their back and that it’s not premeditated.

You mentioned they were “best friends”, so it’s likely their friendship precludes your relationship by a healthy margin. Discovering boundaries will be a big help here. If the other girl has a past record of being overly flirtatious with your girlfriend’s partners or if you have a past case of being a cheater, the reaction you got was more than likely an emotional response wrapped around a logical fear - that this is a matter of old habits resurfacing.

Female Drama

Don’t discount the idea of this being needless female drama, but keep in mind that it’s going to be important to let your lover know that if she’s telling you to dance with her friend, you might feel uncomfortable if you don’t know how she would like you to handle things in the event things got a bit too involved.

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