Comments on: Why Do Women Prefer To Be Spanked? Women Prefer A Man That Resembles Their Dad…

By: Rayblondie

Rayblondie — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 17:53:15 +0000

My wife tries her best to submit to me but I do not dominate her. And no she is not switched on by being spanked. This thing has as many turns as there are people. It is senseless trying to make rules about it. I am the one who is spanked in the bedroom and yet she is the one who tries to submit to me as the husband. Submission does not mean slavery. It is just something that brings order into the marriage relationship. There is a respect there and I am encouraged to lead and do feel very manly because of it. I do not dominate her of course but concentrate more on loving her and letting her feel it. We do have a good marriage I feel. At least compared to what I read on the net.

By: Rayblondie

Rayblondie — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 17:38:26 +0000

Very good and balanced post Jamie. As a husband I do loved to be spanked but it doesn’t include any domination by my wife. She is just meeting a need as part of foreplay. Obviously a lot of wives are this way as well. Submission doesn’t really come into it in my book. In a way she is submitting willingly to my request and has become very comfortable with it over the years.

I find there is very little sense spoken about this subject. Either it is all about punishment which we don’t indulge in or it’s talk about dominance and submission. There is very little on erotic spanking within a faithful and loving marriage. But who cares in a way. We still enjoy what we do and we have had a great marriage for twenty eight years.

By: Rayblondie

Rayblondie — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 17:23:07 +0000

My wife spanks me for erotic purposes. It makes me feel so close to her and does stimulate something deep down. I don’t know why it just does. Nothing better to arouse me without going over the top. I like the foreplay to last and be an experience before the climatic IC.

By: Mac

Mac — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 14:33:05 +0000

My wife was spanked a few times by her dad. But he stopped when she was a teen. So she went a little wild and he didn’t know what to do.
People confuse spanking a misbehaving teen girl with sexual spanking. Even dad can get confused if he gets a hard-on while he’s spanking a girl who has breasts and a woman butt. Ole Roscoe doesn’t know the difference and as he gets excited for all kinds of things: change of temperature, fear, anxiety, elation, you name it, he just may get excited about daughter’s butt. You just have to ignore him and get the job done.
The only things you should ever spank a woman with are your bare hand or a very lightweight paddle no heavier than a paint stirrer. There should be no bruising, and welts should be gone in a few hours. Never strike a female anywhere but on her butt. It is wide and padded, as if spanking was taken into consideration when they were designed.
Only punish when a woman is being rebellious, insubordinate or careless. If she makes a mistake, that does not call for punishment.
Do not spank if you are seriously angry. Cool off for a little and then spank.
Don’t force wife to submit to spanking. She must submit on her own in obedience to your command.
As daughters mature, they should be treated more like you treat your wife. By the time a daughter is 14-16, do not force her to submit to spanking. She has to learn to obey.
Important: Do your job of being a husband, father and ruler of your little kingdom.

By: Maura

Maura — Sat, 23 Jul 2011 07:20:01 +0000

David – are you single?

By: asal

asal — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 22:53:38 +0000

I’m a 25 years old girl.i never get spanked before ,but i love to be spanked hardly and i don’t know why really!
and I love spanking since when i was a little child even less than 5 years old!!!!!!!

By: Vangi

Vangi — Sat, 14 May 2011 06:17:49 +0000

Well you sure are the snob. Most women appreciate that kind of honesty. Most women worth their salt hate snobs. This man may not have had your advantages but he is not afraid to speak his mind in kindness. You are just the kind of man we really don’t care for.

By: Larry

Larry — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 03:10:25 +0000

I like your comment kirkpatrick. Listen! When i told my women i was going to throw the ruler away! Your know what she said…. Don’t you throw my ruler away. That ruler at that point became apart of our relationship. I felt bad spanking my Lady but I never admitted it but she really like it. I don’t use the ruler unless its truly for funn or to tap her on the but if Im upset. But I wonder if your comment should apply to me as well. I mean she really don’t like spanking me but she likes it. Should I tell her I want to be spank too. Is all krazy for me and need sound advise.

By: Christopher McChrystal

Christopher McChrystal — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 11:14:09 +0000

How often does he spank you

By: Jamie

Jamie — Sat, 08 May 2010 14:13:09 +0000

All this generalization is ridiculous. Some women liked to be spanked, some women don’t. Just as some men like to be spanked.

I personally like spanking in the bedroom. I have found that I have two warring aspects of my personality—and I am sure it is the same for a lot of the independent women who like to be spanked. Part of me wants to feel dominated and overpowered by a strong man, a man who has a calm and self-confident demeanor that also makes me feel like no matter what, everything will turn out ok. The other part of me doesn’t need protection, doesn’t want my freedom checked or reigned in by anyone, she is self-confident and proud of herself and has no problem making her own decisions and dealing with the consequences of them. The point is: I need both sides to feel whole. The men that think I don’t need pride or independence and that I should always submit to my man, need to reign in their pride a bit. If you can’t feel like a man without dominating your woman, you need to take a hard look at your own insecurities, because it’s ok for men to submit too. Maybe you need to forgive yourself for being insecure.

We all need balance. No one in this world is just one thing all the time. We all want to play multiple roles, because we are all complex individuals. Men should not expect women to be one thing all the time, just because we like to be independent and strong in one area of our lives doesn’t necessarily mean we want it in others. Or that we don’t.

That’s what was wrong with the old system, the man being dominant and the woman being submissive–you can’t force people to act a certain way all the time and expect them to be happy. The men of that time were just as unhappy as the women were, and modern men tend to forget that. They were stressed out all of the time because they carried all of the responsibilities. That’s a heavy burden to bear, I don’t care who you are. That’s why men are living longer now than they did back then—they aren’t drinking or smoking or womanizing themselves to death to deal with the stress of being “the man.”