Comments on: Why Do Women Prefer To Be Spanked? Women Prefer A Man That Resembles Their Dad… http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/ AskUgg.com discusses Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, and more! Fri, 05 Dec 2008 12:26:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: phia http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-1239 phia Sat, 23 Jun 2007 06:43:35 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-1239 Interestingly enough, many guys like being spanked too as long as it's playful and in the moment. It has to do with the nerve endings and the fact that it raises the excitement of the situation. Interestingly enough, many guys like being spanked too as long as it’s playful and in the moment. It has to do with the nerve endings and the fact that it raises the excitement of the situation.

]]> By: feelingflirty http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-1442 feelingflirty Wed, 18 Jul 2007 04:39:02 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-1442 Doesn't this sound sadistic? Doesn’t this sound sadistic?

]]> By: maureen http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-2620 maureen Mon, 05 Nov 2007 03:06:10 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-2620 love to be spanked by my husband love to be spanked by my husband

]]> By: Craig http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5497 Craig Wed, 27 Feb 2008 14:04:12 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5497 If this is based on childhood relationships, as the actual scientific study would suggest, why be so hung up on "genetic dispositions" and what is "embedded deep within their sexual DNA"? A hell of a lot of men like to be spanked as well, and I have no idea what would make anyone think that "men prefer to end arguments quickly with logic, rather then prolong it in order to feel emotionally satisfied". Not in my experience. If this is based on childhood relationships, as the actual scientific study would suggest, why be so hung up on “genetic dispositions” and what is “embedded deep within their sexual DNA”? A hell of a lot of men like to be spanked as well, and I have no idea what would make anyone think that “men prefer to end arguments quickly with logic, rather then prolong it in order to feel emotionally satisfied”. Not in my experience.

]]> By: Ugg http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5499 Ugg Wed, 27 Feb 2008 17:19:34 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5499 On the latter, most studies concerning relationship psychology speak heavily on how communication differs between men and women. Typically, most men don't crave the continued emotional stimulation from extended conversations. To put it simply, it's usually more about the destination than the journey. "Sexual DNA" may be a bit of a misnomer. While DNA is genetically developed, "Sexual DNA" is more a combination of genetics and upbringing. Termed as such because of the fact that it is not a true physical thing, but rather the result of our upbringing in combination with our inherited sexual traits. On the latter, most studies concerning relationship psychology speak heavily on how communication differs between men and women. Typically, most men don’t crave the continued emotional stimulation from extended conversations. To put it simply, it’s usually more about the destination than the journey.

“Sexual DNA” may be a bit of a misnomer. While DNA is genetically developed, “Sexual DNA” is more a combination of genetics and upbringing. Termed as such because of the fact that it is not a true physical thing, but rather the result of our upbringing in combination with our inherited sexual traits.

]]> By: Dave http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5709 Dave Thu, 06 Mar 2008 15:55:51 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5709 No, spanking is not sadistic -- at least not for most spankers. It is a way to get a woman incredibly hot, and for the women who DO like to be spanked, it is amazing. I can't believe how common this desire is -- how many women really want to be taken over a man's knee. Not all of them want it hard, although many do. It does so many things -- stimulation, helplessness, humiliation... No, spanking is not sadistic — at least not for most spankers. It is a way to get a woman incredibly hot, and for the women who DO like to be spanked, it is amazing. I can’t believe how common this desire is — how many women really want to be taken over a man’s knee. Not all of them want it hard, although many do. It does so many things — stimulation, helplessness, humiliation…

]]> By: Ugg http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5713 Ugg Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:56:36 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-5713 To explore part of the emotional reasoning behind spanking, movies like "Secretary" are good viewing. While it's a bit of a more extreme example, it's a really powerful movie about the passion, lust, and need to be adored/conquered/dominated by someone you trust, love, or hate. Saw it recently and would very much recommend it. To explore part of the emotional reasoning behind spanking, movies like “Secretary” are good viewing. While it’s a bit of a more extreme example, it’s a really powerful movie about the passion, lust, and need to be adored/conquered/dominated by someone you trust, love, or hate.

Saw it recently and would very much recommend it.

]]> By: hugh kirkpatrick http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6166 hugh kirkpatrick Thu, 13 Mar 2008 16:23:45 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6166 spanking was used on me as a child. a good hairbrushing quickly was administered by my father using a hairbrush on my bare bottom. this procedure quickly corrected the misdoing and the misdoing not repeated knowing what would get. in my marriage we both decided spanking would be used on each other when mutually agreed thier misdoing would result in a hot bottom . this procedure far better than the previous option consisting of long arguments followed by hours of silence. spanking was used on me as a child. a good hairbrushing quickly was administered by my father using a hairbrush on my bare bottom. this procedure quickly corrected the misdoing and the misdoing not repeated knowing what would get. in my marriage we both decided spanking would be used on each other when mutually agreed thier misdoing would result in a hot bottom . this procedure far better than the previous option consisting of long arguments followed by hours of silence.

]]> By: Susana http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6249 Susana Tue, 18 Mar 2008 12:32:19 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6249 I belive it comes from women wanting an alpha male. A woman innatley wants the man to dominate (not bully) and the idea of a no nonsense male who will put her over his knee is quite erotic to the majority of females. Even in this era of women having being empowered. I have reserched many relationships where the women holds a sucessful career but is submissive in the household. Not the doormat kind but allows the man to be what his role instinctaly is head of the household. Relation ships such as this seem to flourish. A spanking is not abuse, usualy even in childhood it is given out of love for correction. The children taken away from families were not the ones spanked but the ones beaten. There is a line. I have never heard of a women shouting abuse when she has been spanked by her partner. As it plays a part in many erotic magazines as well as internet sites maybe its not as kinky as some would belive I belive it comes from women wanting an alpha male. A woman innatley wants the man to dominate (not bully) and the idea of a no nonsense male who will put her over his knee is quite erotic to the majority of females. Even in this era of women having being empowered. I have reserched many relationships where the women holds a sucessful career but is submissive in the household. Not the doormat kind but allows the man to be what his role instinctaly is head of the household. Relation ships such as this seem to flourish.
A spanking is not abuse, usualy even in childhood it is given out of love for correction. The children taken away from families were not the ones spanked but the ones beaten. There is a line. I have never heard of a women shouting abuse when she has been spanked by her partner.
As it plays a part in many erotic magazines as well as internet sites maybe its not as kinky as some would belive

]]> By: Ugg http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6305 Ugg Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:56:04 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6305 I think you're on the money and I've always likened that aspect of female success to beating a video game. Yes, you conquered something difficult, but at the end, you find yourself on top of the mountain all alone and still wanting. I think one of the major problems is that some women become so focused on doing everything a man can do, they forget that deep down, it is perfectly fine to submit. That surrender and trust is critical to a successful relationship and to true personal expression. I'd even go so far as to say that many women may find themselves secretly pushing themselves harder to succeed because they secretly fear the idea that they really just want to be held securely and dominated, but feel that would make them weak or less of a "strong" woman. Man or woman, submission to another is something we all struggle with. The more we struggle and build social structures to encourage or enable that struggle, the more things like this sort of spanking become more secretly enticing and desirable. I think you’re on the money and I’ve always likened that aspect of female success to beating a video game.

Yes, you conquered something difficult, but at the end, you find yourself on top of the mountain all alone and still wanting.

I think one of the major problems is that some women become so focused on doing everything a man can do, they forget that deep down, it is perfectly fine to submit. That surrender and trust is critical to a successful relationship and to true personal expression.

I’d even go so far as to say that many women may find themselves secretly pushing themselves harder to succeed because they secretly fear the idea that they really just want to be held securely and dominated, but feel that would make them weak or less of a “strong” woman.

Man or woman, submission to another is something we all struggle with. The more we struggle and build social structures to encourage or enable that struggle, the more things like this sort of spanking become more secretly enticing and desirable.

]]> By: harun http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6618 harun Thu, 27 Mar 2008 17:42:46 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-6618 may I be your husband just for tonight I really want that :) may I be your husband just for tonight I really want that :)

]]> By: Calvin http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-7532 Calvin Sat, 10 May 2008 07:20:20 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-7532 All a man has is his manhood and when taken away, he does not feel like a man no more. Women who understand this one sentence above can find many successful relationships. I am sick of women now-a-days who deem themselves independent and does not give their man the upper hand. You can be fully independent and yet give your man the upper hand, then your man will have his manhood. Remember, you are the one who gives the upper hand so really, logically you have the upper hand. To elaborate more on this idea of upper hand, some women will only settle for a man who can snatch the upper hand off them while others will just hand it over. I like women who do not just hand it off. Summarily, let your man be the man in relationship and you will have a much better relationship. If your man does not deserve it, then help him by guiding him in the right direction. As for the spanking, it goes all the way to the dawn of civilization. Back then as long as a man can overpower a woman, then he will have sex with her. Women would fight back but if overpowered they'll give up--just like animals. The strongest men had the ability to do this. Thus, psychologically, subconsciously some women still will only give in to men that will make them feel weak. However, now-a-days the feeling weaker is exercised differently. Women were like property to men, so men administered their behavior and spanked them just like their kids for correcting behavior. Now-a-days they do not want to admit that they are property to men, but subconsciously they do. Hope this does not sound sexist but that is just how it is. They are not property though, but only because at one era we (men) did not care and we did not know any better. But now we all do--hopefully. Just love each other, and fulfill each others desires. Let me know if you guys need more input. I am outa! All a man has is his manhood and when taken away, he does not feel like a man no more.

Women who understand this one sentence above can find many successful relationships. I am sick of women now-a-days who deem themselves independent and does not give their man the upper hand. You can be fully independent and yet give your man the upper hand, then your man will have his manhood. Remember, you are the one who gives the upper hand so really, logically you have the upper hand. To elaborate more on this idea of upper hand, some women will only settle for a man who can snatch the upper hand off them while others will just hand it over. I like women who do not just hand it off.

Summarily, let your man be the man in relationship and you will have a much better relationship. If your man does not deserve it, then help him by guiding him in the right direction.

As for the spanking, it goes all the way to the dawn of civilization. Back then as long as a man can overpower a woman, then he will have sex with her. Women would fight back but if overpowered they’ll give up–just like animals. The strongest men had the ability to do this. Thus, psychologically, subconsciously some women still will only give in to men that will make them feel weak. However, now-a-days the feeling weaker is exercised differently. Women were like property to men, so men administered their behavior and spanked them just like their kids for correcting behavior.

Now-a-days they do not want to admit that they are property to men, but subconsciously they do. Hope this does not sound sexist but that is just how it is. They are not property though, but only because at one era we (men) did not care and we did not know any better. But now we all do–hopefully.

Just love each other, and fulfill each others desires.

Let me know if you guys need more input.

I am outa!

]]> By: Charley http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-9818 Charley Fri, 11 Jul 2008 17:34:16 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-9818 What's the big mystery about many women liking to play in the bedroom, but wanting proper respect outside the bedroom? It makes perfect sense to me and doesn't mystify me at all. That's where the saying, "A lady in public and a whore in private" comes from. Women like that are awesome! They're proper and respectable in public so you can take them home to mom and be proud, and introduce them to coworkers and be proud, and if a guy goes to church, he can bring her there and be proud fo her. She won't embarrass him in public with slutty behavior because she is a respectable lady. Yet in private she's got a lot of pentup bad girl that needs to be released and she wants to play hard and naughty. What's wrong with that? Nothing! Polar women like this are fantastic! I prefer women who are proper and respectable in public and naughty in private. That's where the saying, "Naughty, but nice" comes from, or as I like to say, "Nice and naughty". It's about keeping behavior appropriate to the circumstances and moment. I love women like that. By contrast, I had two GFs who were consistently naughty and they embarrassed me and humiliated me many times in public. Like one time I introduced one of them to my 80 year old neighbor ladies and she told them a blow job joke. OMG. Not funny. At the other extreme of consistent behavior is the girls/women who are consistently proper at all times in all places. Good in public, but frustrating in the bedroom. Do you have any idea how frustrating it is for a man to be with a beautiful women who won't do anything in bed her mom or preacher didn't give her permission to do? Women who display consistant behavior across all circumstance (i.e. - all good girl or all bad girl) are always inappropriate a portion of the time. Women who adapt their behavior to the circumstance are behaving appropriately to the situation. i.e. - a lady in public, and a naughty spankofile in private who might even let a guy do some things he's never done before. What’s the big mystery about many women liking to play in the bedroom, but wanting proper respect outside the bedroom? It makes perfect sense to me and doesn’t mystify me at all.

That’s where the saying, “A lady in public and a whore in private” comes from.

Women like that are awesome! They’re proper and respectable in public so you can take them home to mom and be proud, and introduce them to coworkers and be proud, and if a guy goes to church, he can bring her there and be proud fo her. She won’t embarrass him in public with slutty behavior because she is a respectable lady.

Yet in private she’s got a lot of pentup bad girl that needs to be released and she wants to play hard and naughty. What’s wrong with that? Nothing! Polar women like this are fantastic!

I prefer women who are proper and respectable in public and naughty in private. That’s where the saying, “Naughty, but nice” comes from, or as I like to say, “Nice and naughty”.

It’s about keeping behavior appropriate to the circumstances and moment. I love women like that.

By contrast, I had two GFs who were consistently naughty and they embarrassed me and humiliated me many times in public. Like one time I introduced one of them to my 80 year old neighbor ladies and she told them a blow job joke. OMG. Not funny.

At the other extreme of consistent behavior is the girls/women who are consistently proper at all times in all places. Good in public, but frustrating in the bedroom. Do you have any idea how frustrating it is for a man to be with a beautiful women who won’t do anything in bed her mom or preacher didn’t give her permission to do?

Women who display consistant behavior across all circumstance (i.e. - all good girl or all bad girl) are always inappropriate a portion of the time. Women who adapt their behavior to the circumstance are behaving appropriately to the situation. i.e. - a lady in public, and a naughty spankofile in private who might even let a guy do some things he’s never done before.

]]> By: David http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-13416 David Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:33:42 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/06/22/why-do-women-prefer-to-be-spanked-women-prefer-a-man-that-resembles-their-dad/#comment-13416 Women want to be spanked for a variety of reasons. Summerizing can leave many things unexplained, however, I was asked by a women to spank her on a regular basis (and it does not involve sex). In her own words without editing: "i have many reasons for wanting to be spanked. The reasons vary but i have an emotional and physical need to be spanked. Here are a few reasons: 1. i enjoy being spanked 2. i need the discipline 3. i need to answer to someone 4. spankings keep me grounded...keeps me from getting to big for my pants....i have a lot of authority with my job and it helps me from abusing that authority 5. i like the feeling of having someone control me 6. if i have done something wrong for a punishment spanking it does help me with guilt feelings for what i have done once i have been spanked 7. it relieves stress and tension for me 8. if a spanking is done correctly it makes me feel safe and secure i like having to submit and place myself over your lap. i also enjoy being taken in hand as i like that type of dominance and physical control." Women want to be spanked for a variety of reasons. Summerizing can leave many things unexplained, however, I was asked by a women to spank her on a regular basis (and it does not involve sex). In her own words without editing:

“i have many reasons for wanting to be spanked. The reasons vary but i have an emotional and physical need to be spanked. Here are a few reasons:

1. i enjoy being spanked
2. i need the discipline
3. i need to answer to someone
4. spankings keep me grounded…keeps me from getting to big for my pants….i have a lot of authority with my job and it helps me from abusing that authority
5. i like the feeling of having someone control me
6. if i have done something wrong for a punishment spanking it does help me with guilt feelings for what i have done once i have been spanked
7. it relieves stress and tension for me
8. if a spanking is done correctly it makes me feel safe and secure

i like having to submit and place myself over your lap. i also enjoy being taken in hand as i like that type of dominance and physical control.”

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