You manage to hide it well in most of your posts, but you are a woman hater, plain and simple. Live your life as you wish, but I doubt when you’re older and you look back at your string of flings that involved you making no connection with the person beyond sex, you’ll have some regrets. What’s the point of life if not to love and learn from other people?

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It means it’s time to have honest discussions between yourselves, and if the problem isn’t addressed, leave, and THEN find someone else.

And I agree 100%.

The problem here though, is that the woman who wrote is now finding out that this is the SECOND time. It’s pretty plain that the man probably never changed.

So what to do? If he hasn’t changed and rather lies about it, do you think he can? That he wants to?

If she truly wants this relationship to work - then fight for it. But to fight 50% and then expect him to throw in his 50% is going to be futile - he doesn’t even care enough now to do anything. This is a case where if the woman wants to be at the altar with this man, she’s going to have to drag him here because it doesn’t look like he’s going to do any of the walking on his own.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results - you can be that I would not recommend the same course of action here. Leaving would probably be the sanest, easiest, and healthiest choice for her own sake.

when you’re older and you look back at your string of flings that involved you making no connection with the person beyond sex, you’ll have some regrets. What’s the point of life if not to love and learn from other people?

Aren’t you contradicting yourself here? By having a serious of relationships, whether or not they satisfy you beyond sexual grounds _IS_ loving and learning from other people.

I firmly believe that the high divorce rate in America is from people marrying before they truly know themselves well enough to know what they want from a life partner.

You manage to hide it well in most of your posts, but you are a woman hater, plain and simple.

To the contrary, I love women! If this were an “anti-women” site, we’d see lots of articles about men, only for men, etc. I admit I cater more to the male brain, as we’re kindred spirits, but I never turn down the opportunity to discuss female sexual issues either.

If this answer has left you unsatisfied, please feel free to contact me via the “Ask Ugg” link up top! Make sure to leave contact information and I guarantee I’ll get back to you.

Thanks for the comment!

I did a search on Google to find a blog to see what a therapist would say about my internet activity and whether or not they would agree with my girlfriend ………Am I cheating.

My situation is very similar to the girls’ posting here. I have been caught by my girlfriend looking on similar websites. But I really only do it for passive entertainment.

I know…….you’re all saying Bullshit.

But, did you ever stop to think that other people have interaction with the opposite sex in the work place. I work from home and I don’t have daily interaction with co-workers, conversations with people about the opposite sex, office staff, people that we see at lunch….or anybody else. Where other guys may buy a calendar with sexy girls or look at girls in a magazine, I will click on a website.

MYSPACE….Yes, I have a myspace page. I have lots of pictures of me and my girlfriend on there, so trust me…..I might as well have the plague—because girls are not sending me messages wanting to hook up.

The other day, I went on MYSPACE to post a TOPIC for discussion to a sports GROUP to which I belong. Up at the top, it had a website for Triathlon Singles. So, I thought “What the hell”. Their profiles included a paragraph and one picture of them. To see more pictures or to contact them, you had to put in your e-mail address, so I didn’t do that. But, I did clicked on a dozen or so profiles and then moved on. Back on MYSPACE, I clicked on Browse to see if there were any hotties. So what….big deal.

What bothers me is that my girlfriend uses her new findings as capital to pillage every thread of my personal life. She goes through my bill fold, she reads through my e-mails, she goes into my browsing history. I told her that I don’t go through her purse, just because she leaves it on the table. I asked her how many hours and hundreds of e-mails did she have to read before realizing that I am not screwing anybody or pursuing anybody on the side.

Unfortunately, I think that torments her, becasue she has this low opinion of me that me and all of my friends are players, but she knows where I am every day and every night and she would like nothing better than to prove herself right about me.

I am a good looking guy. I can get laid on any given day —–but I don’t. I certainly don’t need the internet to do it. Do I want to get laid ??? Maybe—So do lots of guys………but we don’t. Do we talk about it? Yes……..but we don’t. So, does all of this make me a cheater ??? Well, if I am going to get convicted of it, then maybe I should start dropping my pants and get my game on.

Is it possible that the internet is just a new form of passive entertainment and girl-watching?

You women need to ask yourselves when you look at, converse or make comments about some hot new guy in the office or when you are at lunch together –if you are cheating. If you saw a handsome man in a restaurant and you had a chance to read a “free” paragraph about him would you do it? If you did, would you be cheating—even if you never talked to him?

However, I wanted to prepare the reader for the eventuality that their relationship may in fact be in danger.

You see, while YOU definitely seem to be an exception to the rule - most men cannot communicate effectively or do not believe they could have this sort of conversation with a woman without it spiraling into a breakup fight.

As a result, many men continue searching until they find something or someone better, in which case they won’t feel the risk of loss.

It may be harmless, but it also may not be, and I think that the latter is a more likely situation if you look at this over the course of the next several years.

So, for me….it never has been a place to “hook-up” and set up dates. It is just girl-watching. I don’t see it any differently than 2 women sitting at a Starbucks and making a comment about a guy who walks through the door. They probably don’t say anything about the ugly guys, but you can bet the cute one gets their attention. And in the security of their anonymity, they check him out. Big deal.

And, you are right……you certainly cannot have this conversation with a woman without it sprialing out of control. Dont’ even try.

Being that I have never used to internet to meet somebody apparently doesn’t seem to matter in supporting my position. But, it’s funny how people will justify their opinion based on what thier friends say or by what somebody on the “Internet” said. How ridiculous! That doesn’t make them right. They just share the same opinion.

Just because 100 million people favor “pro-choice” doesn’t mean that the 50 million people who favor “pro-life” are wrong. Regardless if the margin of opinion is 2 to 1. It is simply a matter of opinion that happens to be different.

So, I am not saying that I am “right” or she is “wrong”. We just have a different opinion on this issue. There is an old ‘accepted” saying that it is OK to read the menu as long as you don’t order. Well, what happened to that?????

Some women think it is acceptable to flirt. And they do it openly for just that simple moment of satisfaction they get. Even if they are married or in a relationship, it’s just this little thing they do at work / at the grocery store / driving down the road. You know who you are !!! But, if the same woman were to catch her husband browsing on the internet………….he would have HELL to pay for that.
Maybe some people need to quit living the double-standard!!!!!