Ever find yourself in a conversation that you wish could last longer, but instead slowly dies out into nothingness? Eventually everything interesting has been said and you’re back to the standard “So what are you in school for” and the “What do you do for work?” lines. You don’t particularly care about the response and they’re likely just answering out of politeness.

The number one way to avoid getting caught up in a dying conversation is to constantly change the venue. When going out, make sure that there are other places in very close proximity that you can ‘bounce’ to after you meet someone interesting. Know a little bit about them (do they charge a cover? is there a redeeming quality about that place?) so that you can recommend them with ease.

This has the additional benefit of making you look like the savant of the night. Like a well-learned traveler, you’ll find women will flock to your side because you’re exciting. You’re not the guy that stands with a drink raised at hip level looking around the bar all night like a hungry jackal. No, you’re too busy for that! This is a highly desirable trait to women who are out looking for fun.

How Does This Help You Get Laid?

• You’re the Alpha Male of the group - Being the alpha male of the group is important. By acting as the leader and recommending a place more exciting than the one you’re at, you appear in charge and also knowledgeable of places of interest.
• A change in location reduces tension and stress - Subconsciously, when you move to a new location, you are no longer the guy they met at the bar. Instead, you’re an exciting man they had the pleasure of running into, who is out to show them some fun, and knows where and how to have it. At a new location, the scenery is different, their defenses are down, and you have a good slate to work with. Most guys at bars are full of crappy pickup lines - you are just a fun guy.
• It allows women to get comfortable with you - Bouncing around is great because it allows the physical interaction of being led. Extend your arm for them to wrap theirs around, extend your hand for them to grab on to, get their hearts beating harder with a little physical exercise. As all this happens, comfort builds and the woman can see you in a more relaxed light. Suddenly it’s almost as if you’re on a second date, only minutes into the interaction

Good bounce spots are typically quieter. If you’re at a club, talking will be hard, so leading to a quieter spot will allow you to chat a bit easier. Remain consistent. If you met at a venue serving alcohol, make sure the next one does too. Remember on a drinking night, most folks are there until closing time so they don’t want to waste time talking when they could be working on their social lubrication.

Avoid The ‘Do You Want To’ Question

If there’s one rule to this, remember that it’s never asking “Do you want to”… Of course they want to, you’re an exciting guy! Additionally, this makes you look weak, as if you need permission to be cool. It’s best to lead with a strong frame and allow the woman to feel comfortable trusting your judgment. After all, even if they say no, there’s no reason you still can’t bounce, meet someone there, and then bring them BACK to the bar you just left.

Bouncing works both ways and is a GREAT way to get the night started in a fun way.

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