There was some discussion on this very topic a few days ago in some random areas of the web. Durex Condoms ran a poll on their site asking this question and the results were pointed to women cheating more. However, the source being highly questionable and the fact that it was no more scientific than any other web poll, means I wouldn’t, by any stretch, call this an unbiased poll.

However, it wasn’t the poll that was so interesting. Instead, it was the commentary from both sides concerning stories of their own regarding the subject of this poll.

Personal observation has told me this, I’m glad this study backs it up. In my opinion men are more likely to lie and women are more likely to cheat on impulse. Both suck in different ways.

If you are in a relationship where one person works and the other does not… That leaves a lot of free time to get into trouble!

I have found that the first sign your girlfriend is cheating on you is when she accuses you of cheating on her.

My friend went through this. His wife secretly ran up over $30K in debt on all their credit cards by funneling cash to who-knows-where and paying all their bills on their credit cards (among other things), then hiding the statements. When he found out they got into a fight, she accused him of cheating on her, then the next day he finds that all their friends and family have been told he’s cheating on her. They separate.

A couple months later she tells him “someone else” will be attending their daughters birthday party, and that she thinks they should both be allowed to get into other relationships. Turns out she was the one cheating on him. I told him to let her do it, since it’s considered adultery while they’re separated. That way he doesn’t have to pay her a dime other than child support.

I’m sure women get the chance to have affairs much easier than men, though, since they don’t have to much else than go to a bar with their friends whereas the man has to go up and speak to women. but this “study” is bullshit.

If you are a married man and fearful of the cheating/divorce/having everything taken away phenomenon, learn from others’ experience and pay close attention to both of your behavior. It seems so obvious now that when she began to lie more often (no pun) and started accusing me of cheating, she had begun to cheat or was leaning that way. If I paid it more attention, we *might* have been able to save our relationship.

You get accused of stuff, you get defensive, there are arguments and stress. Then in the world of the Woman of Low Self-Esteem, she rationalizes that you don’t want to be close to her anymore, so it’s justified that she ‘fell in love’ (that one’s great) with her boyfriend. If you are unlucky enough to marry someone with esteem issues, this may be you, unless you watch closely and communicate very well together.

No, it’s not all about me. Many friends of mine are in this boat. Most of us don’t talk openly about it with our ‘happily married’ friends so they don’t hear about it until later.

There was research done on women in Australia that showed not only did they cheat as much as men but they tended to do it at times they were most likely to get pregnant.

My policy is a simple one. I don’t fuss with jealousy and all that because it is destructive. My partner can have all the trust and space she likes but if there is a baby there is a paternity test. When she objects I say “trust but verify” and remind her that she does not have to deal with any jealousy as a result. Hell, sometimes I think she objects more because she thinks it is her right to cheat more than anything else (and this actually puts an impenetrable crimp in that).

I know for a fact that this is true.

I only know a couple of my guy friends that have cheated, and when they do they usually feel bad and tell the girl..

On the other hand, when a girl cheats she is afraid to tell the guy so we never find out….

I say that 7/10 women cheat, and 3/10 guys cheat… this is from my 30 years of experience and I know a ton of people around the world!

I’m a girl, and I’ve cheated. No, I didn’t lie about it. Yes, I can use grammar. I gave my boyfriend a choice instead. He chose to be with me, but we’ve broken up now. As said, it takes two to tango, but it’s usually just the one person who has to deal with the consequences.

Men looking at porn and girls talking dirty to guys online is the same thing! It’s all about fantasy. Whenever you’re in a relationship, you’re going to fantasise or think about someone else. Whether you take it further, however, is a different matter.

I don’t think it’s fair to stereotype women (or men) in this way, as everyone is different and all relationships are different etc., but I do think that there is a motive, and maybe women tend to get “bored” easily..I don’t know.

This is exactly why I’m going to stay single. Most women are insane, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to waste all that emotion, time and money. My friend had his ex cheat on him with FOUR different guys while they were going out, and then she would accuse HIM of cheating. Still, he took her back everytime. I guess that makes him insane too though.

Now if you don’t mind, I’m going to microwave a bagel and have sex with it.

This doesn’t tell us the heart of the problem though. It could even be because “typical” men are emotionally more cold than women (due to their manly upbringing), leading to women forming weaker emotional attachments to men.

All I’m saying is that, if this study is accurate, it’s only a symptom of a different problem.

I don’t see much rigor of “a study” here, despite confirming suspicions towards the opposite sex. There’s no mention of sample size to give any idea of accuracy, or other sampling metrics. Then of course, the study was conducted in the UK, which may or may not have a bearing on your local culture and mores. However, I’ll agree with other that if a woman is constantly suspicious of your behavior, her motives may be suspect as well. Otherwise, this article is tabloid fluff.

One thing I have learned over the years is that women never let go of one dick before they have a firm grip on another. Chances are if she ends it, she’s been cheating on you.

I won’t go so far as to apply this to every woman, but at least in my experience women are completely void of rationality. They can find a way to convince themselves that whatever they want is justified. They have very little moral fortitude, and little to no accountability for their actions. It’s pretty sad really.

I’m really hoping that my experiences up to date have been the worst I am going to see….cause if this is the way it’s going to be for the rest of my days, I’m never getting married.

I would agree with the stats.
My last 2 marriages ended with the wife cheating, verifiable proof with both.
1st wife I actually caught on the floor with the offender. 2nd wife I found numerous notes proclaiming true love, blah, blah, blah, for a truck driver..?.. WTF..
Talk about destroying your self esteem. After much deliberation I figured out it really wasn’t my fault, but all women, so I hated them and used them, heh heh… Now I am happily married again, for now.

It’s not the cheating part that burns me. What pisses me off is the fact that they can cheat on you and STILL take half of everything you own in the divorce plus alimony. I’m glad there are still some states that have made adultery illegal. You cheat, the marriage is considered null and void and you get nothing.

God, there’s nothing I hate more than cheaters. I was close to cheating once after a huge fight with my girlfriend (now ex) when I met this WONDERFUL girl (now girlfriend), nothing happened really, but just the guilt of how close I was is killing me. Since then I’ve always been thinking, how can people who cheat live with themselves? Don’t they have any self-respect?

Meh. Women will do anything to get what they want. Men actively think of undressing every single good-looking women they see; it’s not hard to figure out why women get more opportunities to cheat. It is still, of course, up to the woman in question. I’d hazard to guess that most of them will choose “yes” simply because the man may be young, or have more money. Something that their current husband/boyfriend may not have.

This is another “no shit!” article.

HEY, as a girl i kind of take offense at all of this.

most likely, she isnt going to cheat on you. not ALL women cheat. just as all men dont cheat. in fact, most people are capable of honoring their commitments to each other.

im sorry if a woman has cheated on you before, but that’s not a reason to assume that all of us are dumb sluts who can’t keep it in our pants.

I’ve never cheated, and I’ve been cheated on numerous times. When I’m with a girl, I pretty much just stop looking for that kind of attention from anyone else. It’s definitely not that it’s not available, as it always seems I get more forward attention from girls when I’m dating someone than when I’m not (and I’m sure I’m not alone in this phenomenon). Probably has to do with the pheromones a sexually active mammal gives off. But if I’m in a stable, loving, sexual relationship, the need for anything else just isn’t there.

I’m sure there are plenty of guys that stay faithful by chance instead of choice, though.

But to be honest, most women are indeed cheating whores. The scariest part about that is that even if you are in a stable relationship for years, there is always the possibility that your girlfriend/wife will bring home a nice little disease to share with you. I know many people this has happened to and just cements my conviction to always wear a condom. I can trust me, but really can’t trust anyone else. Shit happens, but it doesn’t have to happen to me.

I’ve had 2 very good (aka hot as hell) opportunities in life to cheat on a girlfriend. I didn’t, but wish I would have as both of those girlfriends cheated on me. Now I’ve taken the attitude that women are whores and the only way to keep them around is to not give them your money.

Not the healthiest of attitudes, but it has saved me a ton of cash.

It remains to be determined if the men who don’t cheat do this out of conviction or because the can’t get laid by somebody else. I’m not saying “all the men would cheat” I’m just merely suggesting that the difference can be explained by this detail.

WOW, now THAT is what I call diversity!

Most of course would argue that the best way to avoid being busted for cheating - is to not get caught.

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