Comments on: My Girlfriend NAGS All The Time - What Do I Do!? http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/ AskUgg.com discusses Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, and more! Wed, 20 Aug 2008 23:04:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Tyler http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-48 Tyler Fri, 16 Mar 2007 06:56:59 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-48 Excellent advice... I've used this same stuff on my girlfriends (in the past, mother/stepmother) It works like a charm. If anything, when she's screaming, there is no chance of you winning, so what I do is agree and tell them they are absolutely right... then leave for a while. Go on a walk for an hour or so, whatever... then come back when she has disarmed and try to reconcile and figure out what the real solution is. Works like a charm. Excellent advice… I’ve used this same stuff on my girlfriends (in the past, mother/stepmother) It works like a charm. If anything, when she’s screaming, there is no chance of you winning, so what I do is agree and tell them they are absolutely right… then leave for a while. Go on a walk for an hour or so, whatever… then come back when she has disarmed and try to reconcile and figure out what the real solution is. Works like a charm.

]]> By: Ugg http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-50 Ugg Fri, 16 Mar 2007 07:24:30 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-50 It truly is the hardest thing to do. Logic dictates that you can win this debate but emotions won't let you. You have to shelve the 'win' for the greater good and that's not always easy to do. In the end, the cooler head will prevail. Either she'll come to, or stomp away never to bring it up (until the next fight). It's like dealing with a grease fire, they say never to throw water on it, although normally that's the solution to a fire. In a fight, always use logic to present your point and win the debate. Unless you're sleeping with the person you're arguing with ;) It truly is the hardest thing to do. Logic dictates that you can win this debate but emotions won’t let you. You have to shelve the ‘win’ for the greater good and that’s not always easy to do.

In the end, the cooler head will prevail. Either she’ll come to, or stomp away never to bring it up (until the next fight).

It’s like dealing with a grease fire, they say never to throw water on it, although normally that’s the solution to a fire.

In a fight, always use logic to present your point and win the debate. Unless you’re sleeping with the person you’re arguing with ;)

]]> By: AskUgg! - Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! » Blog Archive » The Friend Zone: Why Is She Lying To Me And What Should I Do? http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-74 AskUgg! - Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! » Blog Archive » The Friend Zone: Why Is She Lying To Me And What Should I Do? Mon, 26 Mar 2007 18:33:22 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-74 [...] you’re unable to simply be a friend anymore. Because of your feelings, you don’t feel (it is very important to use “I feel“ here) that you can be her friend [...] […] you’re unable to simply be a friend anymore. Because of your feelings, you don’t feel (it is very important to use “I feel“ here) that you can be her friend […]

]]> By: octopod http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-1899 octopod Sat, 15 Sep 2007 07:43:28 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/my-girlfriend-nags-all-the-time-what-do-i-do/#comment-1899 I can't help but think the obvious answer to "Why would I want to do dishes?" in the above quoted passage is "You think *I* want to do them?", if the household chores end up dividing themselves up the normal way... That said, yeah. This technique is absolutely true. And for any women reading this, it works on men too. Yelling back at an accusation is like throwing water on a grease fire -- he's irrational and running entirely on emotional fuel, and it's best to cool things down and work it out later once he's got his crazy levels back down. Also applicable to parents. I can’t help but think the obvious answer to “Why would I want to do dishes?” in the above quoted passage is “You think *I* want to do them?”, if the household chores end up dividing themselves up the normal way…

That said, yeah. This technique is absolutely true. And for any women reading this, it works on men too. Yelling back at an accusation is like throwing water on a grease fire — he’s irrational and running entirely on emotional fuel, and it’s best to cool things down and work it out later once he’s got his crazy levels back down. Also applicable to parents.

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