Comments on: CONFIRMED! More People Are Choosing NOT To Be Married - 3 Reasons Why This Is A GOOD Thing… http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/ AskUgg.com discusses Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, and more! Wed, 20 Aug 2008 23:08:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: AskUgg! - Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! » Blog Archive » Role Reversal: More Men Are Taking Their Wife’s Last Name http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-72 AskUgg! - Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! » Blog Archive » Role Reversal: More Men Are Taking Their Wife’s Last Name Wed, 21 Mar 2007 23:48:18 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-72 [...] perhaps as a symbol of love, but in the end, I believe they’ll find the arrangement to be even more one-sided than marriage already is. The Salingers broke a patriarchal tradition so ingrained in American society that many [...] […] perhaps as a symbol of love, but in the end, I believe they’ll find the arrangement to be even more one-sided than marriage already is. The Salingers broke a patriarchal tradition so ingrained in American society that many […]

]]> By: ali http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-107 ali Sat, 31 Mar 2007 10:18:26 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-107 You are clearly a man writing this...and have obviously had a bad experience in regards to marriage and/or women. It's funny, but in most cases of married people that I know, the woman is the major breadwinner for the household. People have a right to live in a de facto relationship and should if this is what makes them happy, but I don't believe that we can dispense with the notion of marriage althogether yet. This is not to say that couples who live together or live apart without intention of marriage are doing anything wrong - just that marriage should be viewed as a deeper commitment, as opposed as getting stuck in a 'trap'. You are clearly a man writing this…and have obviously had a bad experience in regards to marriage and/or women. It’s funny, but in most cases of married people that I know, the woman is the major breadwinner for the household. People have a right to live in a de facto relationship and should if this is what makes them happy, but I don’t believe that we can dispense with the notion of marriage althogether yet. This is not to say that couples who live together or live apart without intention of marriage are doing anything wrong - just that marriage should be viewed as a deeper commitment, as opposed as getting stuck in a ‘trap’.

]]> By: Ugg http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-116 Ugg Sat, 31 Mar 2007 23:34:21 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-116 I wholeheartedly agree. My main question is whether, if in today's society, there is any benefit for a man in marriage? Unfortunately, the legal system, points to "No" as the answer. The majority of family law cases regarding divorce and child custody, seem to support the notion that no matter how true your intentions are when you GET married, that greed always sets the tone for the divorce. I think many men still truly believe in marriage. But today's society seems to support the notion that men should pay for the dream that makes the woman the princess. Men pay for the ring, pay for the wedding (even if it is the bride's father, which is tradition), and in turn receive less sex, and the possibility that if she is not kept happy - that she'll receive a free check for a large portion of the man's net worth. In cases where the man makes the bulk of the money at least. To the point, I still say that today's engagement is akin to yesterday's marriage. If you take away all the legal mumbo jumbo, fear of "her getting it all" in a divorce, and just take the passion and emotions that lead to asking someone to share their live with you... that should be marriage. Alas though, it is a dream... I wholeheartedly agree. My main question is whether, if in today’s society, there is any benefit for a man in marriage?

Unfortunately, the legal system, points to “No” as the answer. The majority of family law cases regarding divorce and child custody, seem to support the notion that no matter how true your intentions are when you GET married, that greed always sets the tone for the divorce.

I think many men still truly believe in marriage. But today’s society seems to support the notion that men should pay for the dream that makes the woman the princess. Men pay for the ring, pay for the wedding (even if it is the bride’s father, which is tradition), and in turn receive less sex, and the possibility that if she is not kept happy - that she’ll receive a free check for a large portion of the man’s net worth. In cases where the man makes the bulk of the money at least.

To the point, I still say that today’s engagement is akin to yesterday’s marriage. If you take away all the legal mumbo jumbo, fear of “her getting it all” in a divorce, and just take the passion and emotions that lead to asking someone to share their live with you… that should be marriage. Alas though, it is a dream…

]]> By: Men And Marriage - She Gets An Expensive Ring, Dress, Wedding.. What Do I Get? | AskUgg! | Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-128 Men And Marriage - She Gets An Expensive Ring, Dress, Wedding.. What Do I Get? | AskUgg! | Cheating, Relationships, Dating, Sex, Intimacy, Infidelity, It’s all here! Mon, 02 Apr 2007 19:08:51 +0000 http://www.askugg.com/2007/03/10/confirmed-more-people-are-choosing-not-to-be-married-3-reasons-why-this-is-a-good-thing/#comment-128 [...] course, on the honeymoon, it is expected that the couple will have amazing and passionate sex - but statistics show that after the honeymoon, men typically end up receiving less and less sex as the marriage progresses. So aside from less sex and a potentially gigantic financial liability [...] […] course, on the honeymoon, it is expected that the couple will have amazing and passionate sex - but statistics show that after the honeymoon, men typically end up receiving less and less sex as the marriage progresses. So aside from less sex and a potentially gigantic financial liability […]

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