The Three Types of Men – The Ambitious Man
Mar 9th, 2007 by Ugg
<< Note: This is part of an article series that begins here
Type #2 wants to get laid, but is honest and straightforward. He has no problems being a flirt, but will let the women know when the “L” (Love) or “M” (monogamy) word rears its head that he enjoys their company, enjoys being with them, but is not at a place in his life where he can make that sort of commitment. This honesty can make a great friendship with benefits because Type #2 is quick to make sure that both parties understand the nature of the relationship. With this man, the line between friendship and relationship blurs into a dull haze.
This man shares some traits with type #1. He always seems to have a women around. Women are drawn to this type of man in the same way they are drawn to type #1, he has high social value and because other women find him attractive, so do you. However he’s “a nice guy” that always seems to have women around so he seems a bit safer.
This type of man has come to understand his true desires in life and is smart to make sure he follows on them. He may have been in love before or have been close to it and discovered that while he loves making a woman happy, he is just not at that place in his life where he’s ready to set roots and grow something committed. He knows better than to say he loves you because he knows he’s not IN LOVE with you. This is a key distinction because the other two types will be quick to use those three words to get what they want.
Oddly enough, this man gets what he wants because he will NOT say it. His reckless regard for a woman’s power is attractive. Men are dogs who come when called. Women are cats who refuse to obey your call. This man doesn’t fall into this trap and because of that, his motives add to his allure.
This man typically makes a great friend and a great potential husband when he’s ready. Often this type of man is busy working on the things he wants in life like a great career, etc. When he’s achieved what he wants for himself, he will usually find himself ready to devote that energy to someone to enjoy it with.
This is type #2, the Ambitious Man. He wants to get laid, but understands you do too and will use that to his advantage. He will more likely than not, oppose using the “L” word for fear of modifying the relationship to something he is uncomfortable with.
Introduction
Type Number One – The Jerk
Type Number Two – The Ambitious Man
Type Number Three – The Moron
Conclusion…
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That’s hilarious how you describe a man’s “true desires” as love and monogamy. One page back you describe how all men who want sex are jerks, and how all jerks are men who want sex.
I know you’re unlikely to approve this comment, but I hope you read it thoroughly. Why? Because out of all your blog, these three articles are poison.
At the least balance it up with the three kinds of women:
The ones that want marriage and kids but not sex
The ones that use sex initially to get money from you
The ones that pretend they want sex but don’t actually put out much
‘Cmon, if you can compartmentalise men into three ridiculous definitions, why don’t you do the same injustice to women? At least then you’ll have balance, if not very credible examples of writing.
Heh, well I had actually planned on a series for women but the biological nurturing aspect of women tend to complicate it a bit. In nature, the male species releases its seed and then dies. Humans just found out how to trick the system.
Men want bonding in the end because things get lonely, but men show love through sex so even though men desire love and affection, there has to be sex. Whether it’s with a woman we love each night or it’s with a kleenex, men will find release – a successful relationship acknowledges that.
As far as saying men want monogamy… can you point out where I said that? I believe that monogamy for a man is very hard to achieve satisfactorily. It’s against our biological nature. Men are designed to spread seed to as many partners as possible in order to perpetuate the species successfully. Though I believe that as we’ve evolved that aspect has moved from less of a ‘spray and pray’ to more of a selection-based basis.
And I don’t mind objective comments – they’re what make discussions so fun!
By the way to better answer your objections (got off on a tangent in the other reply):
That’s hilarious how you describe a man’s “true desires” as love and monogamy.
To be clear – that wasn’t my intention – let me know where that was misconstrued and I’ll go back and edit as necessary
One page back you describe how all men who want sex are jerks, and how all jerks are men who want sex.
“The Jerk” is a type of man. All men want sex – all of these 3 types do. Only one of them is a jerk. The difference between the men is what they do in order to get sex. The moron is oblivious to what he truly wants, the jerk is only after sex, and the ambitious man is after sex, but not at the expense of treating women like crap.
Ultimately the ambitious man’s approach will yield happier sexual relationships. Monogamous or not.
No gay man wants me to be with me. I have been in several sites and I was kicked out of several gay dating sites apparently for no reason. I am seeking someone who is not ambitious and who is cool and nice and not racist.