If there’s one thing I’ve come to learn from being on the internet as long as I have - it’s that you CANNOT post anything you do not want the world to know. Especially if anyone from OffTopic.com sees it.

On a forum recently, one hell of a cyber-sleuth (TardCarnival) came across a post on WomensInfidelity.com where a woman describes her issue of wanting to “have her cake and eat it too”. Unfortunately, this case is much more severe than you’d imagine. With a husband serving in Iraq and a small child in the mix - this is just a recipe for disaster.

I’ve hidden/removed some of the personal information, to protect the names of those involved, but you should be able to get a good look at this drama unfolding. Taken verbatim is the post as it originally unfolded. Click on the images for larger versions. To keep things decently safe for viewing, I’ve commented out some of the profanity.

So I’m trolling up womensinfidelity.com. What’s this?

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Original post detailing exactly she is doing and doing it with

Bitch is cheating on her husband who is deployed! Notice the yahoo name. Our first lead.

Her yahoo profile. She’s kind enough to leave a myspace address!

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Yahoo Directory Profile for the cheater

Her alleged myspace:

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Alleged Myspace page

Private! Possibly a dead end. Wait, wait, she left her name and city in her yahoo profile. Can we get a husband’s name?

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Yahoo Directory Profile

We can! The hunt is on! Except, oddly, there is nobody going by his name in El Paso, Texas. Seems odd the wife would have a myspace and hubby wouldn’t.

So let’s go back to her profile.

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Profile of the cheater

Florida?! Hmm, clever girl. Another ruse? A solid lead?

ONE HELL OF A LEAD! Shall we search for her name in Florida this time? We shall.

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Yahoo Directory Profile for the cheater

Oh what do we have here? Quite the profile miss, and quite the wild goose chase you sent me on. Pity I had no idea how easy you would have made it to find you had I just tried myspace.com/your yahoo name. And who’s number 1? The man of the hour.

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The Cheater's Myspace profile

Poor guy loves his wife, and has no idea what’s going on.

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Myspace profile of the husband being cheated on

I’d want someone to tell me, so it’s time to tell him. F**king whores better cover their tracks better if they don’t want their dirty little secrets brought to light.

So How Did This End?

This was posted on one of the largest message boards in the world. Within 30 minutes, there were over 30 pages of responses. Several responses were sent to the cheated husband and eventually a reply was received from his military email address. He had his suspicions, thanked the person who sent it, and said that he’d handle it as he could.

There were pictures posted of the man she was cheating with, who was in her Top 8 Friends section, but those weren’t saved in time unfortunately as the profile went private.

We’ve seen this happen with friends and family who serve, as well as in major motion pictures like Jarhead where it happens to the soldiers out there protecting our freedoms. However, we’ve also heard of the soldiers taking equal freedoms in other conflicts like Vietnam, etc. A quick Google turned up some interesting results:

Was justice served? Well, at least this man knows what he’s coming home to. I believe every victim of cheating deserves to know what’s going on - hopefully before too much damage is done. Cheating? Fess up. It’s hard to take that step but at the end of the ordeal, everyone will hopefully end up on the road to moving on and healing…

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Comment by Burned
2007-04-10 23:56:11

This is a freakin classic, its been awhile since i did anything like that but it is freakin great, im tired of all the military whores especially, your old man is in a damn war, and you have the gull to fuck someone else while he is fighting…

great post askugg, i’m going to highlight this post on my blog, it is a classic.

Comment by Ugg
2007-04-11 08:07:43

Thanks!

I’m big on these stories because I’ve read of soldiers coming home and finding their lives torn apart by cheating spouses. Often traumatized from war, the last thing they can handle is their life torn apart in front of them. Sometimes they resort to violence, sometimes suicide, but especially if there are children involved, the soldier needs to know about this before heading home to find a big surprise waiting for him or her.

 
Comment by ProudArmyWife
2007-09-06 21:56:48

I have been reading this on Military Spouses cheating, and I must say, that I don’t know if you think all of us are that way or just a few. My husband is deployed, and will be until sometime in 2008, but I don’t put myself into a situation where I am going to cheat. We have two kids, and no matter the distance, we have an awesome life, and a love that isn’t going to change bc we’re apart. I don’t like seeing how some of you say All Military Wives are Whores or anything like that. Bc while there are spouses like that to give spouses like me bad names, many of us don’t. I know a lot of friends whose husbands are gone and none of them cheat either. Yeah it does happen, but mostly its the 18-20 yr olds who rushed into a marriage right before the soldier was deployed!

Comment by lovemysoldier2008
2008-01-18 13:48:06

I agree with you. I am a military wife. I am married to a man that is currently deployed. It is not fair that we are all cast in the same circle as the wives who cheat. I have not ever cheated on my husband nor do i have plans too. We have a daughter and my family means the most to me.

Comment by Jean
2008-01-19 23:58:58

Yes some women do cheat on their husbands who are serving our country and it makes me sick but those of you who put us in the same category by saying “all military wives cheat” disgust me even more! It’s hard enough dealing with a husband who is gone for a year or more without being put in the same category as a cheater. That’s like saying all men are pigs!
I am married to a wonderful man who is attending basic training right now and I know he will be deployed soon after coming home from basic. I also have a son who in May will also be joining. Family is everything and you have to be strong! I wouldn’t ever dream of cheating on my husband. I don’t recall anyones vows reading, “for better, for worse, and oh yea if he goes to war I can cheat!”
It takes strong willed women to stay grounded and just because someone is in their early 20’s is NO excuse to cheat on a spouse that is over in a different country fighting a war. You knew what you were getting into when you said, “I DO”, and if you claim you don’t then your head is in the sand!

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Comment by Vic
2007-04-11 06:38:51

:eek3:

Comment by Ugg
2007-04-11 08:14:43

:eek3: indeed… maybe even a little :noes: :o

 
 
Comment by redfox2
2007-04-11 10:43:30

nappy headed hos!!!!!

Comment by Trel
2007-11-09 15:41:31

No need….

 
 
Comment by gino
2007-04-17 02:59:01

Well…I hope for her that the guy in Irak doesn’t come bck too hungry…you don’t want to mess with a marine or a G.I. with a post combat stress disorder….and usually the guys out there tend to be pretty tough….But he will have my approval if he kick the bastard “friend” till it bleed. God is disgusting how some people are respctless of our folks…I’d send this ind of people to die in Irak in the first place!
**SUPPORT OUR TROOPS***
Bye.

Comment by Ugg
2007-04-17 10:09:38

While I agree with what I believe you were TRYING to say… I’m sure our troops would appreciate you at least being able to properly spell the country they’re in :)

 
 
2007-04-18 16:59:02

[…] that if nothing else, you’ve established that he was lying. Men and women often do this when “busted” because it ends the conversation and avoids the fact that you don’t really want an answer, […]

 
Comment by Kelly
2007-04-29 02:19:22

I found this through a friend of mine - the funniest part of this is that yes, the actual girl that was cheating, WAS cheating - BUT - the girl whose profile she linked you to *originally*? OH SNAP - she was also cheating on her husband while he was deployed! (but denies it, though friends and the like saw her in public with this guy).

What a sad, sad world.

Comment by Trel
2007-11-09 15:40:41

Right, because she’s seen in public with a man that she’s not related to must mean she’s sleeping with him.

 
 
Comment by Crisi
2007-06-20 16:47:08

… This is very confusing, because that first myspace you linked to? Kyleia? She is not black. I know her in reallife, or I did many years ago. Now, I would not put it above her to cheat on a husband (I do know she married a military guy) but, I think you are dealing with two differnt Kyleias in there.

 
Comment by Loran
2007-07-03 21:50:21

I am a US Soldier and I have something to say. I appreciate that this story is being told, however. Is it fair that the wife in this situation is being treated so harshly? Alot of soldiers and alot of spouses are doing this sort of thing. I even had friends who promised their spouses that they wouldn’t be angry if something like this happend during their time apart. It is war, it is stressful and it is a very sad reality. I am not saying that this is okay, and I hope that my spouse and I do not face this issue in our marriage however, it isn’t a “new” occurance. It is my opinion that the spouses in these situations need friends who will support them and be there through their struggle to set things right in their marriage. People who will encourage them to find more respectable ways to deal with their emotions in the absence of their spouse. This girl is 23, she is young and she messed up pretty bad. Does that mean she hates her husband???? Really???? It’s not like she is the first one to make a mistake that she has to live with for the rest of her life.

Anyway, that is my opinion… This is a private matter between a SOLDIER and HIS spouse.

 
Comment by Richard
2007-07-28 16:34:05

Here’s a little of a reverse story for you people out there. I formerly served in the Marines, was out for awhile, met the girl of my dreams and got married, she wanted to go to college, so she joined the National Guard, unfortunately 911 took place and everyone was getting deployed, she was one of them. Gone for 9 months, emailing me, talking to me on the phone almost daily, “I love you so much, when i get back we have to start our family and bring a little one into the world” shit like this the entire time. Well, when she returned she was acting a bit off, i figured she needed adjustment, i gave her space, i needed that myself before. Things didn’t get any better so i pressed her to find the issue, turns out the entire time she was deployed she was fucking her Mst Sgt, her supperior NCO. Then she said, “Sorry, but i’m leaving you, i’m in love with someone else” why thank you so much, for leading me on for so long, i wonder if any of those times she called me, and said how much she loved me, if she was sitting on her Mst Sgt. I have been trying to find a wall of shame to poster her picture and info, but haven’t had any luck.

Comment by Ugg
2007-07-29 12:11:39

Wow Richard, I can’t imagine that was a welcome surprise. Thanks for the story and remember.. at least you didn’t end up raising a child that wasn’t yours. That’s happened to other men in stories in the ‘Cheating Lovers’ section!

 
Comment by TJ
2007-08-24 12:51:17

Wow Richard -
You are just like me. I couldn’t help but respond. I came across this thread while looking up punishment for adultery. My wife was deployed overseas from October 2005 through February of this year while I raised our 4 year old. I found a number of e-mails between two guys during her deployment. One was at one place and then she was transferred. This continued on with another fellow. This is absolutely disgusting. I don’t know how we can expect other cultures to live by standards when we can’t even live to them. I just assume that her and every other pig that participated in this behavior get what they deserve for this crap.

The kicker of the story is that she ran off with the second of the two guys, but I assume that has not worked out, so now she is begging to come back. I have quit my job with the Army and moved my daughter and I out of state so I can finish graduate school. 4 year olds shouldn’t be asking to go to ‘Mommy’s boyfriend’s’ when I try to be a parent to this child.

The shoe is ready to drop on her and I had questions about punishment for this sort of crap. What happened in your instance. Did they end up blaming you for it. Thanks

 
Comment by lovemysoldier2008
2008-01-18 13:51:41

Sorry to hear that happened to you. I know people in my husband’s unit that are coming home to wives that are expecting and it’s not theirs. I think if you are going to cheat, tell the other person and then you both can either fix it or get on with your lives. If my husband cheats on me - that is what will happen, the trust will be gone and not sure that can be rebuilt.

 
 
Comment by RG
2007-07-31 06:18:25

I am prior service Army, and just like Richard’s story tells you, it happens just as much with the deployed spouses overseas as it does with the ones left behind… which is fucked up because it’s not easy for them to be at home without their spouses either, just because they’re not the ones fighting. I’m dealing with a deployed spouse right now. He took leave to see our newborn son shortly after he got there and before he knew about the 3-month deployment extension so I have a solid year without him. But there is no way in hell, heaven, or earth that I will -EVER- cheat on him. It’s just not right, but that’s just me. Why the hell would someone get married if they weren’t sure if that person is someone they want to spend the rest of their life with? I mean, it’s different if you have an agreement with your spouse or whatever but if you’re LYING to them and hiding shit from them you deserve to get slapped.

And all these tricky people give military spouses like me a bad name.. But Loran is right, it is a matter between a soldier and his or her spouse..

 
Comment by Nospacesallowed
2007-11-02 17:03:56

You may want to block the kids face out in the second myspace profile picture as he appears underage and in some places there are laws against that type of thing. It is in the lower left-hand corner.

 
Comment by J (secrets)
2007-11-17 00:54:18

I am deployed in Iraq right now, and I wish someone would do this for me! I have a ton of odd things happening to me, that my wife is doing. We have 2 young boys and it would make me feel, so much better if someone could help me! Please Help me someone! Please!

Comment by George
2008-05-10 11:26:01

What do you need? You people are fighting in Iraq for nothing.

 
 
Comment by Arthur Minnich
2007-12-18 09:27:24

This is absolutley beautiful. I wish someone had told me. I left home June 2006 for Iraq. By October my wife was having an affair. I discovered it in February 2007. After she ruined my credit, cleaned out the bank and destroyed quiet a bit of my personal items. Everybody knew but me and no one was talking. I noticed one person state, “Anyway, that is my opinion… This is a private matter between a SOLDIER and HIS spouse.” No it’s not. She gave up privacy when she introduced a third party to the marriage. I have extended here in Iraq for another year to pay off the marital debts. Since then she has sold almost everything of value in our home. What she didn’t sell is now in her boyfriends house, (Drew Schaffer, Pine Grove, PA). My little girl now lives with mommy, boyfriend, brother and 5 dogs in a small home. PA court has shown thier understanding for this matter by leveling a $750.00 a month child support judgement against me. LOL It’s unreal. She works, no longer pays rent and she is taking me back to court because she didn’t get the promotion she was expecting at work. She wants more. Her boyfriend only works part time. I wonder exactly who I am supporting. All I know is this. I am tired of it. I still love my wife and I miss her more than words can say. HE is another matter. He invaded my marriage, my home and my bed. Everyday he walked through my front door he saw a picture of me with a yellow ribbon that said, “My Daddy’s my hero”. So he is far from innocent. He is a coward. He is what women call a “home wrecker” and he will pay. I have nothing for him. He is a low life, scum. Not worthy of breathing the air that other good people could be breathing. For now he enjoys life, my family, my wifes attention and affection. That will end. He enjoys it by my grace alone and I won’t be here forever.

 
Comment by Mike Paahana
2008-01-29 17:14:02

i fool aroun so much on my gf i evan like do it with her sister and i no feel bad at all so relax sista an jus have fun

 
Comment by Jeff
2008-08-02 23:21:36

I found out my wife was cheating while I was in Afghanistan! I had a feeling something was wrong, so I hacked into her email and found their letters to each other about their contact from the night before. I was sick over it. I requested leave immediately and was home two weeks later. I wanted to kill them both, and damn near did. It took a lot for me not to. The guy she had the affair with is also in the military and has never deployed! I have been to Iraq twice and was on my first deployment in Afghanistan. As if we don’t have enough on our plate without the person we are supposed to rely on the most becoming the enemy. I have not seen him yet, but it is just a matter of time before I do. I have the proof of the affair which is now with the Inspector General. He won’t have a job for long, but that is still not good enough. He can’t hide from me forever. As far as life goes for her. SHE lost the house and will have only visitation with the 2 children we made together. For once the father wins!

Comment by Ugg
2008-08-04 09:47:43

Wow Jeff!

Thanks for the comment - it seems that dads are winning more often nowadays and sometimes with good reason to.

Sorry for the circumstances, but it seems that you have the upper hand. Hopefully you make that work for you. It’s cliche, but the best revenge really is living a great life.

 
 
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